Before a child becomes a bully or even a victim of bullying, there is one thing parents and the community at large can focus on and that is on building each child’s confidence. Bullies and victims of bullying tend to have that in common: low self-esteem which may be due to low self-confidence. This article will give you ways to intentionally build your child’s confidence starting immediately after you read this article. We hope that this will serve as preventative tips to help you decrease the likelihood that your child will want to bully others or even help you make your child feel confident enough to make bullies want to stay clear of him or her. If bullying ever does become an issue, it is the confidence that was built within your child prior to that moment that will help him or her take the necessary measures to do something about it whether he is the one being bullied or if it is someone that your child knows. Without further ado, here is a list of ways to build your child’s confidence:
- Frequent, honest compliments. Be specific. Say more than generic statements like “you are so beautiful.” Telling your child what you love or like about him or her that is not always physical, relating to other aspects of who he is emotionally or just his personality.
- Ask your child what he likes about himself. If your child says something negative, ask why. If there is something that your child does not like about himself, you could use stories of acceptance to help your child see himself differently.
- Commnunity service and giving back to the community in ways that your child finds to be of interest. This creates a sense of gratitude and pride in humanity and in one’s self.
- Teaching your child about cultural aspects of your family history to help him to develop pride in who he is and where he comes from.
- Yoga. Yoga is more than just a way to exercise. It is great at helping people to learn the value of the moment, teaching children at an early age the importance of “smelling the roses” along the way as opposed to being so driven to get to a future moment or goal. Yoga also helps build more awareness of the self and more confidence as one increases the difficulty level to help build strength and flexibility.
- Creative outlets. Does your child like to paint, draw, cook, write, color, play an instrument, sing, dance, etc? These are all creative outlets that can build pride within your child. Though some people may participate in competitions, you can use any one or more of these outlets to help build pride in your child by helping him to see the ways in which he is uniquely able to express even the smallest of details within any of the art forms.
Building confidence in our youth is a sure way to help them to be confident in who they are which plays a huge role in us ending bullying as a society. Though we want to keep the conversation going and open so that if bullying ever becomes an issue, we are aware of it as parents, guardians and community members, building more confident, self-aware and compassionate human beings in the process can help foster a society where people are more kind to themselves and one another.
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