Bullying is definitely an “everyone” problem. We are firm believers that the cycle of blame could never be pin pointed in one direction or another. We are all products of our environment and that environment consists of various elements like home, school, peers, work and even within our own minds. Yes! We said it. Though our tendency to think and feel certain ways are very much programmed by our natural tendencies and upbringing, the thoughts in general can be what some might call us bullying our own selves. So what are the 4 ways that we bully ourselves and don’t know it?
- Do you call yourself names? When you feel you’ve missed the mark, do you say this in your mind or even under your breath?
- Do you hit yourself or other objects when you feel an extreme sense of emotion? A slap on the head for feeling stupid or punching the wall out of anger are great examples of this.
- Do you constantly think negative thoughts about yourself? Low self-esteem could be considered a type of “self-bullying.” The negative things that we tell ourselves whether we are repeating what someone else said or just what we truly think or feel fall under this category.
- Do you indulge in harmful behavior because you don’t care about yourself or have you made light of the idea of harming yourself? This can be through self mutilation like cutting or using drugs and alcohol to cope or rid oneself of pain or to escape a struggle of some kind. Self harm is self harm.
Perhaps you have never seen any of these actions toward yourself as bullying, but once we do them to another being, isn’t it what we have identified as behaviors that are categorized under the different types of bullying or even abuse? If we look around and contemplate all that happens, we will see that we have definitely created a culture of bullying. Many types of bullying are accepted and tolerated and a lot of this behavior is done within our own selves. We must begin the process of self love and healing in order to live out lives that are wholesome, becoming examples for our fellowman.
A lot of this bullying that is done to ourselves is based on how we think and feel about ourselves; many things that we never share with the rest of the world, verbally, around us. Changing how we think is crucial. Self affirmations and doing things to learn more about ourselves and learning to embrace who we are where we are is key. Many people struggle with an outlet or manner to process emotions. We have shared articles on the following topics that we hope will be a great resource or reminder for someone; articles giving tips on how to process emotions, the power of forgiveness , how to overcome anger and how to get in a better mood. We hope these articles will help someone out there who is struggling with any of this self-inflicting behavior. If you are struggling with self-mutilation or drug abuse, please get help. You are loved and we hope that this will inspire you to embrace that because it is inside of you.